This is my “birth story” with JJ…I have been meaning to post it, but things have been kind of busy and I haven’t had time yet to sit down and write everything out. If you’re not interested in this kind of thing, stop reading now!
Plus, it’s kind of long.
I’d been feeling discouraged on Monday the 16th. I wasn’t feeling JJ move a ton, and everything just seemed so NORMAL. No contractions, nothing. Not at all how you want to feel when you’re 9 months pregnant. I stayed up late that night praying, reading my Bible, and trying to trust God that the baby would come in His timing, not mine. He reminded me that He was the one who created her, and He knew exactly when she should be born. I finally went to bed around 1 am.
I woke up at 2:30 and realized that I was having contractions, and they were coming pretty consistently at 10-15 minutes apart. After an hour or so, I got up and went downstairs to check out an online contraction monitor. They were about 8 minutes apart then. I wasn’t sure what to do, because my doctor’s office had said to come to the hospital when contractions were 8 minutes apart (since it was my second child), but I didn’t feel right about that. I didn’t want to go in if I wasn’t really in labor. I texted Em, who texted me back (even though it was 5 am by that point!) and suggested that I call the hospital and ask them what I should do. The contractions were still coming regularly, every 6-8 minutes then and lasting for about a minute. The doctor on call said not to rush or anything, but that it was probably about time to come in.
I woke Tom up, and he called his mom to see if she’d stay with J while we went. We asked her not to tell anyone, in case this wasn’t the real thing.
We got to the hospital around 7:45, and the contractions were probably about 5 minutes apart at this point. A midwife checked me, and I was about 3-4 centimeters dilated, so she said she would admit us. I had a couple of contractions while she was there, and she asked me if I was going to want an epidural. I said I was. She said that if I was handling the pain this well, then I probably wouldn’t need one. I would find out later that she would continue to hold this position as the day went on.
A nurse put us in a room, and Em arrived around 9:45. Her boss was nice enough to let her out of work to come hang out with me.
We walked around the hallways for a while to get things going, because I was still about 4 cm. (The doctor had made a comment about getting things moving or else we’d have to go home. We would realize later that he was joking, as he did about everything, apparently.) We then overheard two of the nurses talking about patients who “thought they were in labor” but weren’t. One of them was my nurse. Em and I were pretty mad for a while, because I *was* in labor, just not progressing as quickly as any of us would have liked. And just because I wasn’t shrieking during contractions didn’t mean that I wasn’t in pain.
But anyway, we got over it, and eventually I got to 5 cm and the doctor broke my water. Things picked up after that. Contractions started getting much stronger, still only coming 2-3 minutes apart. I was debating when to tell them I wanted the epidural; I was handling everything okay, but I wasn’t sure when was a good time. The anesthesiologist was in a section, and I didn’t want to pull her out of it. Eventually I told them that when she was done, she should come and give me the epidural. I’m not exactly sure what happened after that, but the midwife came in and said that the doctor wanted her to check to make sure I wasn’t 9 cm before we did the epidural. She checked, and sure enough, I was at 9 cm.
At this point, no one really said whether or not I could still have the epidural. The midwife was acting like I couldn’t, but the nurse and other people seemed to indicate that I could. The midwife kept telling me that I didn’t need it and I was doing just fine. It seemed like she had her own agenda and didn’t want me to get an epidural. Finally I just said, “I don’t want to do this without the epidural. If I can have it, I want it,” and she left. The anesthesiologist came in somewhere during this time and said yes, she could still do it, so we did.
It took a couple of hours after that before I started pushing. It felt like we were just waiting forever, but it was really nice for me to lie there and sleep/rest for a while. I think that made a huge difference in how everything ended up. When I finally did start pushing, it only took a couple of pushes before the baby was born. The doctor was fantastic and told me exactly what to do, and before any of us knew it, there she was! She was born at 6:14 pm, 7lbs and 7oz. Brown hair, dark blue eyes. She didn’t cry right away, but she scored a 9 and 9 on her APGARS and took to nursing like a champ.
I felt great afterward, even though I had a bunch of tearing and whatnot. It was SO different than my labor/delivery with J. Everything happened naturally, as opposed to being induced, and I felt SO much better at the end. By one week afterward, everything felt completely normal. Plus, I actually enjoyed the experience (at least the last couple of hours). It was a lot more rewarding to know that my body was ready and doing what it was supposed to be doing.
Part of me has been hesitant to post this, because I’ve been afraid that some of my readers would judge me for getting the epidural when I had made it to 9 cm on my own. But, you know, I’m glad that I got it. I probably could have done it just fine without it, but I certainly wouldn’t have enjoyed the experience. This way, I have the vivid memory of JJ being born, and how easy it was, and I LOVE that. It was a great experience, and I don’t regret choosing the epidural, no matter what anyone else might think.
We sent JJ to the nursery that first night, because I thought it would be good to actually get some sleep. When they brought her in during the night to nurse, she told me that at some point JJ had gagged on something (probably some fluid or something left from being born) and choked and turned blue. They’d given her oxygen and gotten help and she was doing fine, but the nurse told me several times that if I needed anything, to yank on the emergency cord and get her asap. The whole thing freaked me out a little bit…and I can’t help but wonder what might have happened if JJ had been in our room and not in the nursery. Would I have noticed that something was wrong? I don’t know. I was asleep. But I’m awfully glad that I didn’t have to find out.
I think JJ looks a lot like J did at birth, so here are some comparison pics. J is on the left and JJ is on the right in all of them.